My Emotions Are Out of Control: Rage, Sensitivity, and Perimenopause in Moms

She snapped.

Her 11-year-old was stalling on bedtime—again. The sixth “Just one more thing.” And suddenly, she was yelling. Not firm parenting, not boundary-setting. *Yelling.* “You make everything so hard! Why can’t you just go to bed like a normal person?” His face fell. He didn’t cry. She did—later, alone, after he was asleep, when the guilt came rushing in.

She teared up.

It was a routine staff meeting. Someone asked a question she didn’t know the answer to. It wasn’t hostile. But her eyes started burning, and she had to turn off her camera to pull herself together. She used to be confident—sharp, unshakable. Now she felt like a balloon that popped at the lightest touch.

She boiled. Then blinked back tears.

Her partner made a joke—something about “being in a mood again.” She laughed on the outside, but inside her chest was pounding. Rage flared. How dare he. And then, just beneath the heat: tears. Because she didn’t *want* to be this sensitive. She didn’t want to keep having to explain herself. She just wanted to feel understood before she exploded—or disappeared.

We hear stories like these all the time. From clients. From friends. From ourselves. Smart, capable midlife women who feel like strangers in their own bodies—and minds.

If you’ve been *more reactive* lately, or *more fragile,* or both in the same hour, you’re not alone. And you’re not broken. You’re reacting to something real.

What’s actually happening in perimenopause?

Welcome to perimenopause, where hormonal shifts scramble your brain and body’s ability to regulate emotion. Even if your period hasn’t changed yet. Even if you still look “fine” on the outside.

Estrogen and progesterone don’t just impact your cycle. They influence:

- How fast your anger builds

- How quickly you cry

- How resilient (or not) your nervous system feels

- How much sleep you’re getting—and how deeply you rest

And when you add in:

- Parenting demands

- Work stress

- A changing relationship

- Aging parents

- A culture that doesn’t talk about any of this

…it’s no wonder you feel like you’re at capacity all the time.

This isn’t about overreacting. This is about your body being under-supported and your emotional bandwidth being maxed.

Here’s what we want you to know about perimenopause:

- You don’t have to be *stoic* to be strong.

- Emotional volatility isn’t a personal failure—it’s a signal.

- You deserve care that goes deeper than “get more sleep” and “have a glass of wine.”

This is why we created MOMAPUASE™.

 It’s not therapy. It’s not a vibe. It’s a no-fluff, expert-backed program that explains what’s going on *and* gives you real tools to navigate it. So you can feel more like yourself—even in the mess.